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<![CDATA[Dilek Wise, PhD, LMFT - Blog]]>Fri, 25 May 2012 07:12:16 -0800Weebly<![CDATA[Skype/ Online Consultations]]>Mon, 24 Oct 2011 13:36:32 -0800http://www.dilekwise.org/1/post/2011/10/a.html

Previously Skype was utilized to connect clients to assist the continuity of our therapeutic conversations.

Recently, online consultations are becoming more frequently sought out by people due to traveling, or physical limitations of being able to come to the office, etc. Although this service is not covered by the insurance, it's a time and cost effective way to maintain an ongoing therapeutic dialogue conveniently within the comfort of your own space.

Please direct your further questions to Dr. Wise if you wish to try this option. For more details regarding cost and confidentiality please email to dilek@dilekwise.org or call her at +1 (713) 294 8090

Simply click on the blue S above to download Skype & add Dr. Wise to your contact list. Skype ID is: drwise

]]><![CDATA[An inspirational quote from Eileen Caddy from the book "Opening the doors within":]]>Mon, 17 Oct 2011 04:14:22 -0800http://www.dilekwise.org/1/post/2011/10/an-inspirational-quote-from-eileen-caddy-from-the-book-opening-the-doors-within.html"All things are part of the perfect whole; and everything you do, say, think and feel is part of it. Therefore do not limit yourself in any way but feel yourself expand and expand, taking in more and more. You will never reach the limits because there is no limit. Life is infinite and you are part of the infinity. Keep stretching your consciousness. Where is that spirit of adventure within you that enables you to step out fearlessly into the unknown with a feeling of real excitement and expectation? Simply going along in the same old way day in and day out will get you nowhere, and you cannot hope to grow spiritually. You have to want to move forward, and when you make your own decision to do so, then you will receive help from every side. The first move is always yours. So do not waste time hanging back, but take the first step forward and behold miracle upon miracle taking place in your life."
]]><![CDATA[Announcement: Out-of-Network Status with Cigna]]>Mon, 19 Sep 2011 00:00:00 -0800http://www.dilekwise.org/1/post/2011/09/post-title-click-and-type-to-edit.htmlPlease be informed Dr. Wise is not accepting new Cigna clients. As of 09/19/2011, we became out-of-network and really glad for our decision to do so. If you are existing client and used Cigna for your services, let us know so we can accommodate you and your immediate therapeutic needs as best as we can in continuing treatment with Dr. Wise in the future. Thank you. ]]><![CDATA[Our Secret Fear: Fear to Live]]>Tue, 27 Jul 2010 14:06:22 -0800http://www.dilekwise.org/1/post/2010/07/deepest-fear-fear-to-live.htmlRecently, I see more individuals coming in with an increased existential anxiety. So I decided to share a quote with you on fear.
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"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually who are you not to be? Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

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A Quote from Marianne Williamson ]]><![CDATA[Why do relationships die?]]>Sun, 18 Jul 2010 22:36:31 -0800http://www.dilekwise.org/1/post/2010/07/why-do-relationships-die.html
Like all living organisms, relationships have life times. Some last longer than others.

Relationships die because of themselves. The ones die almost destruct themselves, like in the movie "Mission Impossible" The message is delivered so the cassette destroys itself in few seconds. Some relationships are just like that. They loose their purpose, attraction, and use. Overall, the meaning individuals attribute to it is gone.

It aches my heart to see individuals suffer in a dysfunctional relationship. As a therapist, though, I rather see them coming in to seeking help at any level of dysfunction, than letting their relationship to decay gradually. I am more hopeful for the relationship when I see individuals cry for help than getting sunk into their anger, or getting into affairs, or keeping on the secrets. I am more hopeful seeing them letting their anger out, arguing with each other rather than being quiet -it tells me that relationships is still alive.

Just as if these diversions allow individuals to breath, for the first time in a long time, and make them feel like they are able to maintain what is true to their hearts. However, in the long run, these diversions become the problem. Just like in addictions, first you drink to numb your pain, then you drink to numb your pain of not drinking. These diversions complicate natural dynamics in the intimate relationships.

Sometimes, it's little too late. As a hopeless optimist, I refuse to believe that it is too late. I never stop trying. You can always do something to make a difference. I will work with the relationship even on it's death-bed. If individuals are progressing toward building a wall against one another, cutting or reducing communication, distancing and emotionally withdrawing from each other then you need a surgical removal of the tumor from the relationship. Where there is a surgery there is a risk of death and a chance of life.

Sometimes while one is crying for help, and the other has already shut herself/himself in the thickest walls one can breach. In those times, your personal attempts most likely not going to work because your partner has developed a certain view of you; so s/he is not relating to you as who you are. S/he is relating you how s/he is seeing you, thorough his reality of who s/he thinks you are now.

Usually this vision is infected thorough distortions and misunderstandings in communication over time through your dysfunctional relationship.

Anger, affairs, addictions, and secrets make these walls thicker and thicker as each day passes. You will need a skillful human being to get in to your relationship and surgically remove the tumor while saving the life of your relationship. All you need to do is to pick the right surgeon, and then let the work begin with you.

When you are arguing, your relationship is still alive.
All you need is help to make it healthy again.

If you have a will you have a way;
You can do it!
]]><![CDATA[Summer Schedule]]>Thu, 15 Jul 2010 07:52:55 -0800http://www.dilekwise.org/1/post/2010/07/summer-break.html

Our office will be closed between
August 2 and 23, 2010.

I will be traveling abroad and
unable to return your voicemail during this time,
so best way to reach me is via email.
Hope that you are having a pleasant summer,
and see you soon !

If you are a new client
and considering to set up an appointment,
please contact me via email, so can schedule your appointment as soon as possible.

If you are an existing client
please email me for any rescheduling requests or questions/concerns regarding your therapy process.

If you are in a life threatening emergency
Please immediately dial 911, or
Crisis Hotline at 713-HOTLINE, or
Go to the nearest emergency clinic or hospital.

]]><![CDATA[My Therapeutic Approach]]>Wed, 07 Jul 2010 00:00:00 -0800http://www.dilekwise.org/1/post/2010/07/my-therapeutic-approach-wise.htmlMy therapeutic posture is humanistic, collaborative, and postmodern. As a therapist, I position myself within the brief pragmatic experiential as well as the collaborative language-systems and solution-focused approaches.

My clinical training extends to several different theoretical orientations. I happily locate myself currently in the Postmodern, Social-constructionist, Collaborative-Language Systems and Solution-focused theories and practices.

You and I, together, define your goals in therapy and then collaborate to construct them. I customize my approach uniquely for your specific needs. I respect our mutual and collaborative relationship to construct the best working solutions with you.

Unlike traditional therapy approaches, you have a choice in determining the frequency of your sessions. However, in my experience therapy produces best results once you and I meet once a week for four consecutive weeks; & afterwards re-evaluate where you are in regards to your goals of therapy.

With compassion, experience and genuine care, you will receive the best quality of service to implement the long-lasting results on the way to a happier you.
]]><![CDATA[Welcome & Happy 4th of July!]]>Sun, 04 Jul 2010 00:00:00 -0800http://www.dilekwise.org/1/post/2010/07/houston-therapist-houston-marriage-therapist-affairs.htmlThank you for visiting my Blog!

I can't believe it's already July the 4th in 2010.
HAPPY 4th to you all!

A long-waiting website renewal is delivered. Today, I am celebrating the 4th along with my new web-site and a brand new professional blog!

It's been a while that I have been learning about and experimenting with designs of blog and web;
although this one is still in progress so far, I believe, it's the most refined and complete one comparing to my
other attempts.

I hope that you enjoy being here, come back at any time and feel free to post your comments.

Look forward to conversing with you,
All the best!]]>